Toyin Sokefun-Bello (TY Bello) in a recent interview with Movie Producer, Kemi Adetiba, on series titled ‘King Women’ revealed that she was sexually abused as a child.
“I was sexually abused as a child and because of this, I felt like there was something ugly about me that made me encounter this. This was not the abuser’s fault, this was me.
“I used to see other girls as flowers and I saw myself as dirty cement, hard and ugly.
“I never felt beautiful, everything was wrong with me, my brows was wrongI was hairy and it was a problem.
“I always attributed everything that was about me to be the reason someone took advantage of me.
“I thought there was something wrong with me because if the others girls were like me perhaps they would be dirty like me but they were flowers.
“When a friend told me about salvation, she told me old things would be passed away and all things will become new.
“It was as if God could wash away that stench and I would become a girl because I didn’t feel like a girl.
“I was shocked when I grew up and found that one out every three or four girls in my secondary school had suffered the same thing and I could tell them the same thing… that old thing can pass away.
“It was a relief to find that I was not the only one and a shock that nobody talks about it.
“That’s why salvation worked, I had a daddy and I was going to be a flower.”
I’ve known TY for YEARS. She is my friend and a huge part of my support system in this industry. She is my also my creative muse (alongside @bezidakula). Talking with TY always uplifts my SOUL. I know she’s human, but I tend to see her as a walking, breathing ball of light. She simply embodies this human form as camouflage. My TY is SUPER private and extremely protective of her family, so I know she did this interview for two main reasons. 1) In the hope that sharing her story would touch, uplift and inspire someone out there that really needs it. 2) Because she TRUSTED me to share her story with all the respect that it deserves. I spent time with the edit of this video because I understood that level of trust she carefully placed in my hands to carry, and it was imperative that I protect that and our friendship with the execution of it. I’ve gotten tons messages from people I don’t even know, sharing how this episode has saved their lives. It’s like it helped them purge and finally face their pain enough to heal. I tell @tybello she talks like she’s writing poetry. You just want to listen and listen and listen to her. You too can listen to her incredible story on the new episode of #KingWomen. Simply click the link in my instagram bio for immediate access. You can also check out @accelerate_tv’s youtube channel to watch the video.